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Dating App Guidelines From a LGBTQ Therapist

With the mixture of wintry weather, the new year’s resolutions and Valentine’s Day coming up, love is surely in the air, or maybe lust. You can have fun, be safe and enjoy your dating experiences. We all know apps are all the craze when it comes to meeting new people for dates or dare I say it, a one-night stand. (Don’t worry, I’m not judging you, I’m a counselor) From Grindr to Jack’d to Tinder to Scruff to POF and many more, you have many different virtual places to meet people. As a Licensed Professional Counselor who specializes in providing counseling services for gay men and the LGBTQ community, I’ve heard it all. Here are a couple tips on making sure your virtual interactions and meetings go well and that you are putting your best foot forward in dating. 

Intimate Partner Violence

This week there was a story in the media discussing a young man who was allegedly shot by his partner and passed away. Having overcome many obstacles in life, this young man was obtaining his Doctorate from Columbia University and had already been in the media for some of the incredible work he had done. Still, we don’t know all the facts about the case and that is not the point for this submission.

This submission is to talk about something that is happening all too frequently: intimate partner violence. Intimate partner violence is defined as domestic violence that is done by a current or former partner or spouse. In general, about 1 in 4 women have been reported to have some level of intimate partner violence and about 1 in 7 men report this happening to them. Unfortunately, because same sex relationships don’t report it as often there isn’t substantial data that concerns this feat.

Holiday Lessons

As we approach the holidays, there are many LGBTQIA+ people who will be sitting alone. It is an unfortunate aspect of the ongoing liberation of Queer people that they can be pushed out of spaces like home in which they have grown comfortable. Could you imagine the trauma that must arise yearly for a person who can’t go back to the first place that they felt had a sense of normalcy? How this must impact their mental health.