Feud between Armon Wiggins and Jacob Kohinoor?
I am very intentional on straying away from the messiness of our community, but in the right perspective, everything can be a learning lesson.
So, there seems to allegedly be a feud between two gay social media celebrities: Jacob Kohinoor and Armon Wiggins.
Both of them are geniuses in their own right in reference to the platform they have built for themselves and, because of this, I was interested in understanding why they seem to be beefing. To the people out the loop, Armon posted a video on his Facebook. Armon has since been put in Facebook jail for this video going off about Jacob (who now refers to herself as Jessica) and his crossdressing and twerking in drag. Now, I am attempting to be politically correct as possible as Jessica is Jacob's drag persona and he, from what has been presented and viewed by me, doesn't identify as trans. Here's the video:
When I saw the video, I was taken aback. I mean, anytime you see Armon doing a side-to-side video you know it will be brutal-- and that it was. Because I just knew that the intense comedic anger had to come from somewhere, I went and did some research.
To put it short so I can make my point, Armon was in a series that Jacob starred and produced in called "The Shady Rainbow". Armon left the show and/or was kicked off. Jacob allegedly blocked Armon according to an interview he did 6 months ago as Armon was telling his perspective that Jacob was trying to use his (Armon's) heightening platform for views without giving him any credit. For the past several months, there has been nothing said between the two.
If you have been following Jacob Kohinoor, he has been radically expressing his feminine side as his drag persona, Miss Jessica. Now, I am in no way trying to be trans insensitive and I haven't had time to watch all of Miss Jessica's videos, but I did see a video recently where he explained he was doing drag. So... in that way Jacob has been living out Miss Jessica and making all kinds of videos featuring her.
Then, there was Armon's video above. Thereafter, Armon was in Facebook jail and the video was removed from YouTube. Hmph.
Since then, there have been talks about Armon being a trans-basher, bully and "shamer" in the LGBT community. Based on the video, I get it. And, as I said, Armon was harsh as fuck and because he can be brutal it can be perceived that this was to an entire community. His delivery was off. Nevertheless, I think this was between them and I think that, although Jacob is being passive and calculated, he is playing into it just as much as Armon is. He is sharing posts and making a lot of subliminals towards the character of Armon. Some of these things seem to include considering him a homophobe. This is ridiculous to me.
So, this is the thing. When we decide to be leaders in the community in whatever way that looks like, we have a responsibility to use our platform wisely. I don't expect Jacob or Armon to do the same things because they have different platforms, but I do expect them to handle each other like community members.
When things happen outside of our community that seems to shine negative light on us, we go in on them (see Kim Burrell, Vivica A. Fox, etc.). If we really feel like other people shouldn't demean us in that way, we should make sure what we present is the best representation of ourselves. For Armon, it may mean you having an issue with Jacob shouldn't be handled on your platform and rather by paying it completely or having a conversation with him and dropping it. For Jacob, it may mean not trying to turn people against Armon for making fun of you when you know it's bigger than that and that you were just having fun playing in women's clothes.
It doesn't make sense to me for people to have platforms and not come to a place where we realize we all can win and that it doesn't have to be from the tearing down of the next person in our community. It is room for us all. If we don't stop fighting each other, we won't be able to collectively combat the shots thrown our way by everyone else. Love wins.