Dear Black Transgender Sisters,
I apologize that we, gay black men, are sometimes no better than the rest of the world. That we treat you all like accessories, and wear you out and about, after 5 in the club but aren't there when it matters most. That we only respect your transitions if you meet our standards of beauty and femininity.That we sometimes only view you as entertainment. That we can't see pass the drag shows, $1,000 face, and pageant titles and see the person you truly are.
I apologize that we question those that love you. That we look at friendships with you as taboo. That we label gay men who find you attractive "tranny chasers" and pressure men who may be genuine in their intentions to hide you and their feelings out of fear of being shamed. I'm sorry that we don't protect you from users and those who view you as a hustle. Your being is so much more; I hope you all know that.
I'm sorry that we don't "Say Your Names" when a transgender sister life is tragically taken. That we always assume that a murder of a transgender woman has something to do with prostitution or when we say #BlackLivesMatter we have to add an extra hashtag #BlackTransLivesMatter just to include you all in the conversation.
I know you all feel isolated and like no one has your back but there are more men like me who carry this same burden and we love you. Thank you all for always being our fearless leaders and resilient in every way.